Why You Don’t Want to Force Things
In the west, we celebrate the “never give up” attitude. Perseverance is an admired trait that leads to success, abundance, and goal attainment. We push, sweat, and grind our way through life working for everything that comes our way. We see those who don’t as lazy, loafers.
But what if that were not the most effective way to approach life? What would happen if we flowed with sovereignty and connection instead? What does that mean?
Flowing With Sovereignty
You are at the center of your life. Flowing with sovereignty is about knowing yourself and doing you. The world is made up of caretakers, artists, craftsmen, nerds, and so many other things. Some of us work methodically, some sporadically. Some people thrive in high stress environments, some in tranquil settings. When you know what type of person you are and let yourself be that, you’re going to be happier and healthier. The light within will shine naturally and easily.
When you are doing the things that let your light shine, the experiences that your soul needs just come to you. The people you need to meet, work with, love, help, or network with show up. Nature is intelligent. It knows what you need.
When we’re willful and fighting the flow, we close ourselves off from receiving what is there for us. So relax. Trust. Participate in your life without controlling your life.
Flowing With Connection
Now if we only did what we wanted, that could make for a very self-indulgent, lonely life. Humans are social creatures. We need each other. So it’s important to flow with connection too.
To be connected, we have to give up some of our independence and personal desires to make space for others without controlling or dominating them. It’s about participating in a group flow.
Have you ever been in a social setting where you feel warm inside. Everyone is laughing and talking easily, and it just feels like these are your people? That’s what I mean. If you’re not too concerned about pleasing others, making a good impression, critiquing the food, atmosphere, someone’s manners or clothes, it’s easy to just flow, isn’t it?
Everyone has a light inside that shines more brightly in an environment of acceptance and ease. Be that ease. When you’re in that ease, you will know what’s for you and what isn’t. You can walk away from things that aren’t for you without guilt or excuses and move towards things that are.
Here’s the take away. If you find yourself using a lot of force, needing to power your way through something, or having a lot of anxiety, relax. Surrender control. Take a deep breath and don’t move forward until you can find the path of ease that balances sovereignty and connection.