Coming Out as an Animist
If you are a convert to animism, sooner of later you are going to have to tell people you’re an animist. If your family, friends, or lover isn’t open minded, it may not be the easiest conversation to have. Here are some tips to make coming out as an animist easier.
Pick Your Moment
As with all tough conversations, it’s a good idea to pick your moment. You want to have this talk when the other person is relaxed, receptive, and in a good space to hear you. The worst times is when either of you are hungry, angry, distracted, or tired. So pick your moment. Timing is really important.
Know Your Goal
Why are you having this conversation? What do you hope to gain? Be clear on your intention beforehand. This will help to guide the talk.
The conversation that you have with your mom is probably not the same one that you’d have with your best friend. Is this a serious heart to heart or a light, breezy chat? How deep do you want it to go? How interested might the other person be in wanting to know details? Think about these types of things beforehand so that you don’t get flustered.
People will often take their cue from you. If you act confident and happy, they will respond by being confident and happy. If you act anxious, they are more likely to mirror that back to you. Show them that this isn’t a problem, just maybe a secret up until now. You’re sharing because you want to be honest and up front about who you are and what you believe. If everyone sees it as a way to be closer, it will be.
Be Prepared to Answer Questions
Many people still don’t know what animists are. They think that anyone who doesn’t believe what they believe is evil, a pawn of the devil, or is killing chickens somewhere and dancing naked in their blood. Be prepared to share the love and inspiration that brought you to animism in a way that they can understand it. Personalize it with your stories. Often it’s the unknown that scares us. Make it real for them and it will be easier to imagine and accept.
Ask For What You Want
Whenever there is a radical change in your life, people can push back against it. It’s more comfortable for them if you stay the same. If you show them that you’re still the same person on the inside and that this doesn’t threaten anything, they are likely to support you. So ask for what you want. Ask for their continued love, understanding, and support.